Planning a wedding can be one of the most exciting times in your life, but when it comes to creating the guest list, things can sometimes get a bit daunting and awkward. No one wants to have to cull friends or family off the guests list, and there’s always the lingering worry that they may bring it up and question as to why they weren’t invited. Here, we’ve created an etiquette guide to trimming that guest list with minimal stress.

Divide Guests into Tiers and Go from There

One effective and systematic way to cut down the guest list is to divide guests into tiers of A, B, C and D. If you’re having purely a closest friends and family affair. If you’re having something a little bit bigger, invite B as well, and so on and so forth. When you’re deciding who to include in you’re A list, the general rule of thumb is if they’re on your Christmas card or holiday postcard list, then you’re safe to give them preference.

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Set Limits

There will always be the people that your parents or in laws are going to want to invite. To keep this under control, limit the amount of people each are allowed to invite, and stick to it. 

Consider Eliminating Children or Plus Ones from the List

Generally, people understand if they aren’t allowed to bring their children to an event like a wedding. As for plus ones, if you’re not close friends with your guest’s partners, it’s likely that it will be understood if plus ones are not invited across the board.

Have a Destination Wedding

Opt for a different location for the wedding to filter out some from people from the guest list. The closer your guests are to you, the likelier they will take the plunge and attend your wedding. You’ll still have a wonderful day, and can combine the honeymoon as part of it too! Even if you go interstate, this is a handy way to go about it.

Be Realistic and Don’t Cave to Pressure

At the end of the day, it’s your wedding day and you don’t have to invite anyone you don’t want to. Don’t let your mother try to convince you to invite Great Aunt Ethel, or feel like you need to ask your high school best friend when you haven’t spoken in years. You’re allowed to do it your way.

At Vogue Ballroom, we strive to take the stress out of wedding planning and your special day. Get in touch with us to view our venue, or talk to an experienced wedding planner.