What Should You Not Do At A Bachelorette Party?

It can be stressful to organise a bachelorette party, whether you're the bride or one of her attendants. Giving your bridesmaids creative freedom while also establishing ground rules can ensure a fun and memorable bachelorette party. Not only do you have to make the bride happy as a bridesmaid, but you also have to make sure that the celebration stays within a reasonable budget and that the date is convenient for all the guests. You know exactly who to invite (and who to leave out).

Your bachelorette party is the one and only time you can truly let your hair down and have a ball. With everything that needs to be done on the big day, you deserve a break. However, bachelorette weekends can be challenging if you don't do some mental preparation beforehand. Before you put on your sash and grab an adult-themed straw, there are a few things to remember.

For the Bride:

Do: Discuss with your bridesmaids any concerns you have about the bachelorette party. 

Make let they know if there is anything specific you'd like to see changed about the event before it happens, such as the price point or whether or not you'd prefer that a stripper not turn up.  Tired of looking for hens party ideas? Look no further, Magic Men has you covered.

Don't: Take over all of the planning or micro-manage the festivities. 

You don't want to miss out on the special touches your pals are planning to add to your bachelorette celebration.

Do: Think carefully about the guest list and invite your best girlfriends with who you are excited to celebrate. 

If you don't want your bridesmaids to have to guess who to invite, give them all of the relevant contact information ahead of time.

Don't: Feel obligated to invite every woman on the wedding guest list. 

The bachelorette party is a time to celebrate your upcoming nuptials with your closest female friends in a more relaxed and personal setting.

Do: Express your wants and needs.

Tell your friends it's fine if you do not want to see any strippers this weekend if that's what you prefer. The innocuous prank your gal pals have in mind for you can actually be more humiliating than hilarious. They may have come to honour you, but their primary motivation was to have a great time.

Do: The bachelorette party should not be scheduled until the day of the wedding or later.

You should take the hangover as a warning against scheduling a bachelor or bachelorette party too soon to the wedding. Having the bachelorette party and the wedding weekend be two completely separate events is preferable if you want to prevent awkward scenarios like having a killer hangover at the altar or getting a sunburn in your wedding dress.

Do: Talk to your future spouse about what to expect.

Besides laying out your expectations for your prospective spouse, it's also wise to let them understand where you'll be and who they can contact in case of an emergency. Everyone attending the bachelorette party should be on the same page with regards to proper behaviour. You should probably check with the groom to see if he approves of lap dancing before the "police officer" starts jiggling his junk in your face.

Don't: Make too many phone calls to your fiancee just to check on

We're not saying you should lock your phone away in the hotel safe for the weekend, but we also don't think you should be checking it every few minutes to see if there are any new texts or calls from your significant other. Schedule a call for a set time each day if you and your sweetheart will be spending nights in a row apart so that you may fill him in on the day's happenings, share any funny or unique stories, and calm his nerves.

Do: Bring something for the hostess

The bridesmaids and maid of honour in your wedding likely spent weeks, if not months, planning the perfect bachelorette party for you. It is kind of you to arrive up bearing gifts for each one of them. Bring a small token of appreciation for each of your ladies, just like you would for a dinner party hostess. Depending on your financial situation, a small token of appreciation can go a long way towards expressing your appreciation for everything they've accomplished for you.

Don't: Don't fall for "last chance" rhetoric.

It's a sure bet that strangers in a bar will tell you that this night out in your condom-covered veil is your last chance to have fun. Nonetheless, you must not give in. You've had your final chance to date a few different people before committing to one. Going out with your best friends should not be an excuse to act inappropriately.

Do:Relax and enjoy yourself.

You probably already know that planning a wedding is a stressful and time-consuming process. Your bachelorette party is a time to let loose and have fun with your best girlfriends in anticipation of your upcoming wedding. If you want to be a bride, you need to be able to juggle multiple tasks at once, create timetables that would make NASA green with envy, and bargain like the United Nations is at your doorstep. Throw off the constraints of a wedding and enjoy being the centre of attention without the trappings of a formal ceremony or the scrutiny of the media.

Don't:If your needs are not being met, voice your displeasure.

Perhaps you've been putting as much thought into your bachelorette party as you would your wedding. But if it doesn't pass muster, keep your mouth shut. At this time, we cannot afford to be poor team players or engage in unnecessary micromanagement. Be grateful and have fun at your bachelorette party; your buddies put in a lot of time, effort, and love into planning it. If something doesn't go as planned at the party, try not to dampen everyone's spirits. Just relax and enjoy yourself; there's no pressing business at hand.

Do: Send out notes of gratitude.

You should express your gratitude to the ladies who assisted in the planning of your bachelorette weekend after the weekend has concluded and the balloons have deflated. Take the time to sit down and write something meaningful to each guest instead than sending a hasty Facebook message. Send it off by taking it to a post box. And (b) who doesn't appreciate getting a letter or package in the mail, especially after having to put up with your bridezilla moments this year?

For the Bridesmaids:

Do: Plan the event far enough in advance. 

Save money on airfare and have more time to work out better group rates. Let your guests know the date early so they can make plans to be there.

Don't: Send out cryptic emails to the bachelorette party invitees. 

To the best of your ability, be forthright and transparent with planned actions and associated costs.

Do: Discuss with the bride. 

Talk to her about her ideal bachelorette party and do your best to accommodate her preferences.

Don't: Ignore the bride’s requests and take matters completely into your own hands. 

Instead of surprise her with VIP table service at a packed dance club if she requests a low-key event, plan some pleasant bonding activities instead.

Do: Take tons of photos throughout the bachelorette party weekend. 

Make a sweet scrapbook out of them and give it to the bride to peruse while she gets ready for the big day!

Don't: Automatically post all of the photos to your social media outlets. 

If the party has gotten out of hand, it's probably a good idea to check with the bride and other guests before passing along any information. The bride may also feel awkward about showing her wedding images to those she did not invite.

Things Not to Do at a Bachelorette Party

Get set for the best GNO ever! The bachelorette party is the most memorable of all the pre-wedding events. The bachelorette party is the bride's last chance to let free before the ceremony, so it needs to be an unforgettable affair. There are a few things to remember if you're one of the invited ladies (or gentlemen). Following this code, from avoiding getting drunk to pitching in monetarily for the bride, is expected of all guests (for the night). We have an exclusive range of hens ideas Melbourne to help you with your entertainment needs.

Listed below are some bachelorette party faux pas to avoid.

Don't put the bride under undue pressure from her peers.

Avoid trying to pull your bride out of the house for a night full of bright dance floors, glow jewellery, and DJs if she is a true homebody who views going to a club as being on par with getting taxed. Comply with her desire for a low-key celebration by planning a spa day or movie marathon at home.

Don't go crazy

On this important night, you want the bride to feel relaxed and at ease, not self-conscious. You are probably going too far if you feel like you are. The evening should have been one to look forward to sharing with her friends, not one she wants to finish quickly.

You shouldn't ditch your pals

One can find nights like those in everyone's life. The type when you wander off into the darkness without saying much. Tonight, though, will be different. If you want the bachelorette party to keep going, you can't abandon the gang. You can go to the dance floor or the bars by yourself, but if it's past midnight, don't try to sneak away in a cab without saying anything; you're in this together for the long haul.

Don't bring up financial concerns.

First things first: bachelorette parties can quickly become very costly. If you don't want to spend a night moaning to the bride about money, make a plan and try to stick to it. It would be wise to forego the party but instead congratulate the bride at her reception if going would be financially ruinous.

You shouldn't have any extra guests.

After the bride has given her final approval to the invite list, it is not your obligation to fill any empty seats. If she has decided to keep some people out, don't insist on joining them. If your best friend wasn't invited, you should make other plans with her because this party is for the bride and her pals.

Avoid unnecessary drama

If you don't want the bachelorette party to turn into an episode of Vanderpump Rules, don't bring the drama. We ask that you refrain from any disruptive behaviour, such as throwing objects, making rude comments, or creating a scene. On TV, these situations work out beautifully, but in reality, they never do.

The plan should not be changed.

Don't wreck the awesome bachelorette party you and your friends have been planning for hours. Before getting in the limo, it's fine to provide your opinion, but once you're inside, you should not do anything to mess with the itinerary.

Stay sober.

If you're planning a bachelorette party, you don't have to keep things dry, but you should be responsible with the alcohol. Excessive consumption in alcohol would be a terrible way to ruin tonight. On her wedding night, the bride shouldn't have to spend time in the bathroom pulling her hair back.

Avoid having the bride pay for anything.

The guest of honour should not be expected to foot the bill for a celebration thrown in his or her honour. If you're going out to eat or a bar, don't let the honoree pay; instead, have everyone chip in. Her credit card could use a vacation after all the expenses of the wedding and honeymoon.

Have some humility

Think of this as your motto for the night: this is not my celebration. Do it again if you like it, and then do it again. The evening will have its ups and downs, but nobody should lose sight of the fact that all eyes should be on the bride. It's her last chance, so make it count with something special. When you finally tie the knot, you'll have your time in the spotlight!

Bachelorette Party Do's and Don'ts

Engagement ring? Check. Date? Check. Venue? Check. The wedding day itself is the focus of much excitement and anticipation, but no bride should forget to plan for her bachelorette party either. Some brides-to-be have even claimed that the bachelorette party brings them more anticipation than the wedding day itself.

The chance to reunite with dear friends to toast the end of one era and the beginning of another? Priceless. But before you go ordering sashes and champagne or scouting out "entertainment," let's discuss some ground principles for throwing a successful celebration.

Do’s

Be open.

The bride's friends throw her a bachelorette party to honour her. Despite the fact that the Vegas Strip has hosted countless bachelorette parties, clubbing isn't everyone's idea of a good time. The activities of the party should be tailored to the wishes of the bride and her party guests. Suggestions include a wine and painting party, a wine tasting excursion, or a SoulCycle class. Keep in mind that the elements of a "crazy night" might be as simple as a bottle of wine, some junk food, and a marathon of cheesy female flicks, depending on the group.

Plan in advance.

Although the maid of honour typically takes the lead in planning the bachelorette party, it's crucial that the brides and all guests are kept in the loop about the schedule. Make sure you confirm on paying as well. Depending on the circumstances, it is appropriate for the partygoers to chip in and help pay for the bride's expenses. If the wedding is a destination event, the bride should be expected to cover at least some of the costs associated with getting there.

It probably goes without saying, but try not to schedule the celebration on the same day as the wedding. Before the squad marches down the aisle, you may want to give everyone time to recover from their sunburns (or hangovers). However, when attendees need to travel a great distance to get to the event, it's fine to combine the celebrations into one trip.

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Have fun!

It's been a lot of pressure to organise this wedding. For the bride, the bachelorette party is a time to relax and have fun with her girlfriends before the stress of the wedding day begins to set in. Keep in mind that you don't need this added pressure on top of everything else. If you act in the bride's best interest, you will be OK.

Don’ts

Micromanage.

Be sure the bride approves of all plans before moving further. After all, today is her special day. Leave out the flashy clothes and inappropriate party favours if she's not into them. Similarly, having everyone dress to a theme can be a lot of fun for those attending, but don't make anyone wear anything they don't feel comfortable in or that will cost too much money. Do not overschedule your bachelorette party if it will last more than one day or night. Avoid hurrying from one location to another by scheduling in some downtime between stops. Moreover, it provides an opportunity for spontaneity, which is essential for creating lasting experiences.

Exclude people in the group.

The bride traditionally chooses the guest list for bachelorette parties. She might wish to include her fiancé's extended family and close friends (who aren't in the bridal party) on the invitation list. That's why it's crucial that the entire wedding party, not just the bride and her attendants, feels welcome and appreciated. Consider the number of invitees carefully. Be mindful of people's limits and interests so that you may avoid embarrassing them with inside jokes or stories from the good old days, and plan activities accordingly.

Forget about the groom.

Although the bride's fiancé is not permitted to physically attend the party (damn you, rule #1 of the bachelorette party manual!), it is appropriate to include him or her in the celebration. A love note, bottle of champagne, or box of chocolates from the groom are always welcome, or he can make a video message that will be played as the party gets underway to show his appreciation for his bride. Alternately, you may organise a game where the bride and groom answer a series of humorous questions about each other's personalities and quirks. In this way, the bride will be gently reminded of the reason for the festivities: to mark the beginning of a new phase in her life with her partner.

Conclusion

It can be stressful to organise a bachelorette party, whether you're the bride or one of her attendants. Giving your bridesmaids creative freedom while also establishing ground rules can ensure a fun and memorable event. Before you put on your sash and grab an adult-themed straw, there are a few things to remember. Bridesmaids and maid of honour in your wedding likely spent weeks, if not months, planning the perfect bachelorette party for you. It is kind of you to arrive up bearing gifts for each of your ladies, just like you would for a dinner party hostess.

Bachelorette parties are a time to let loose and have fun in anticipation of your upcoming wedding. Going out with your best friends should not be an excuse to act inappropriately. If something doesn't go as planned at the party, try not to dampen everyone's spirits. Just relax and enjoy yourself; there's no pressing business at hand. The bachelorette party is the most memorable of all the pre-wedding events.

There are a few things to remember if you're one of the invited ladies (or gentlemen) Following this code, from avoiding getting drunk to pitching in monetarily for the bride, is expected of all guests. Bachelorette parties can quickly become very costly. If you don't want to spend a night moaning to the bride about money, make a plan and stick to it. If your best friend wasn't invited, you should make other plans with her because this party is for the bride and her pals. If you're planning a bachelorette party, you don't have to keep things dry, but you should be responsible with the alcohol.

Excessive consumption in alcohol would be a terrible way to ruin tonight. The guest of honour should not be expected to foot the bill for a celebration thrown in his or her honour. Some brides-to-be have claimed that the bachelorette party brings them more anticipation than the wedding day itself. The activities of the party should be tailored to the wishes of the bride and her party guests. It is appropriate for the partygoers to chip in and help pay for the bride's expenses.

Content Summary: 

• Giving your bridesmaids creative freedom while also establishing ground rules can ensure a fun and memorable bachelorette party.
• Not only do you have to make the bride happy as a bridesmaid, but you also have to make sure that the celebration stays within a reasonable budget and that the date is convenient for all the guests.
• You know exactly who to invite (and who to leave out).
•  If you don't want your bridesmaids to have to guess who to invite, give them all of the relevant contact information ahead of time.
• You should take the hangover as a warning against scheduling a bachelor or bachelorette party too soon for the wedding.
• Everyone attending the bachelorette party should be on the same page with regards to proper behaviour.
• Bring a small token of appreciation for each of your ladies, just like you would for a dinner party hostess.
• Going out with your best friends should not be an excuse to act inappropriately.
• Your bachelorette party is a time to let loose and have fun with your best girlfriends in anticipation of your upcoming wedding.
• Perhaps you've been putting as much thought into your bachelorette party as you would your wedding.
• But if it doesn't pass muster, keep your mouth shut.
• Be grateful and have fun at your bachelorette party; your buddies put in a lot of time, effort, and love into planning it.
• Save money on airfare and have more time to work out better group rates.
• Let your guests know the date early so they can make plans to be there.
• If the party has gotten out of hand, it's probably a good idea to check with the bride and other guests before passing along any information.
• The bachelorette party is the most memorable of all the pre-wedding events.
• The bachelorette party is the bride's last chance to let free before the ceremony, so it needs to be an unforgettable affair.
• There are a few things to remember if you're one of the invited ladies (or gentlemen).
• Following this code, from avoiding getting drunk to pitching in monetarily for the bride, is expected of all guests (for the night).
• Listed below are some bachelorette party faux pas to avoid.
• Comply with her desire for a low-key celebration by planning a spa day or movie marathon at home.
• Don't go crazy On this important night, you want the bride to feel relaxed and at ease, not self-conscious.
• If you want the bachelorette party to keep going, you can't abandon the gang.
• Don't bring up financial concerns.
• If you don't want to spend a night moaning to the bride about money, make a plan and try to stick to it.
• You shouldn't have any extra guests.
• If your best friend wasn't invited, you should make other plans with her because this party is for the bride and her pals.
• Avoid unnecessary drama If you don't want the bachelorette party to turn into an episode of Vanderpump Rules, don't bring the drama.
• Don't wreck the awesome bachelorette party you and your friends have been planning for hours.
• If you're planning a bachelorette party, you don't have to keep things dry, but you should be responsible with the alcohol.
• Excessive consumption of alcohol would be a terrible way to ruin tonight.
• On her wedding night, the bride shouldn't have to spend time in the bathroom pulling her hair back.
• Avoid having the bride pay for anything.
• The guest of honour should not be expected to foot the bill for a celebration thrown in his or her honour.
• If you're going out to eat or a bar, don't let the honoree pay; instead, have everyone chip in.
• Her credit card could use a vacation after all the expenses of the wedding and honeymoon.
• Think of this as your motto for the night: this is not my celebration.
• Do it again if you like it, and then do it again.
• The evening will have its ups and downs, but nobody should lose sight of the fact that all eyes should be on the bride.
• It's her last chance, so make it count with something special.
• The wedding day itself is the focus of much excitement and anticipation, but no bride should forget to plan for her bachelorette party either.
• The bride's friends throw her a bachelorette party to honour her.
• The activities of the party should be tailored to the wishes of the bride and her party guests.
• Although the maid of honour typically takes the lead in planning the bachelorette party, it's crucial that the brides and all guests are kept in the loop about the schedule.
• Depending on the circumstances, it is appropriate for the partygoers to chip in and help pay for the bride's expenses.
• It probably goes without saying, but try not to schedule the celebration on the same day as the wedding.
• However, when attendees need to travel a great distance to get to the event, it's fine to combine the celebrations into one trip.