When I got married, I quickly realised that the most important thing wasn’t how grand our wedding was, but the moments shared with those we loved. Over the years, I’ve worked with many couples who felt the same way—simple weddings can be just as meaningful and memorable, if not more so. A minimalist wedding doesn’t mean skimping on quality or style; it’s about focusing on what truly matters: your connection, your love, and creating an intimate atmosphere. In this guide, I’ll walk you through how to plan a relaxed, stress-free wedding that’s as unique as your relationship.
Why a Simple Wedding Could Be the Best Choice for You
How a Simple Wedding Reduces Stress and Saves Money
Planning a wedding used to be a be-all and end-all event for many couples, where every single detail had to be perfect. But I’ve seen it firsthand—couples burdened with stress, financial worries, and endless checklists, only to lose sight of the true purpose of the day: celebrating their love.
When my partner and I decided to get married at Vogue Ballroom, we didn’t go overboard. We knew from the start that we didn’t want to get bogged down by the hassle and expense of extravagant weddings. A simple approach allowed us to focus on what mattered most to us, and it didn’t mean sacrificing beauty or style.
One of the things I’ve learned in my 20 years in the Melbourne wedding scene is that a simple wedding isn’t about skimping on quality—it’s about focusing on what truly matters. Less is more. A streamlined approach means fewer details to manage, which can reduce the stress of wedding planning significantly. I recall one bride from Armadale who decided on a simple backyard wedding, and she told me, “It felt like a celebration, not a circus.”
Plus, going simple can be a massive money-saver. When you remove the fluff, you can keep your spending under control. A simple wedding often aligns better with your budget, helping you avoid debt or going overboard on things you’ll forget about within the first few months. This doesn’t mean you have to skimp on what matters to you, though—it’s about prioritising the right things.
Celebrating What Truly Matters: Love, Connection, and Intimacy
This one’s a no-brainer, but it’s something I can’t stress enough: the real magic of a wedding is in the connection between the couple. I’ve seen couples go all out, only to lose sight of why they’re getting married in the first place—because they love each other and want to make it official.
Take Laura and James from the Mornington Peninsula, for example. They opted for a simple wedding on the beach, with just 30 close friends and family. It wasn’t about fancy decorations or intricate table settings. It was about sharing an intimate moment with those who meant the most to them. Their ceremony was heartfelt, and the day felt incredibly personal, despite the simplicity of it all.
For me, simplicity is about cutting through the noise. When you choose simplicity, you create space to focus on your connection and your journey together. And it can be just as memorable as any grand celebration.
Key Steps to Plan Your Simple Wedding
Setting Your Budget: How to Stick to It Without Sacrificing Quality
Alright, let’s start with the basics. The first step in planning a simple wedding—one that still feels polished and special—is setting your budget. No matter where you are in Melbourne, there’s a trend towards budget-conscious weddings, especially when the couple wants to keep things minimal.
When I worked with a couple in Richmond last year, they knew exactly what they wanted: a small ceremony with close family, and a nice dinner afterwards. Their total budget was quite modest, but they were still able to create an elegant atmosphere. They prioritised what was most important to them: a beautiful, intimate venue, delicious food, and quality photos to remember the day. Everything else was trimmed back.
Here’s a simple checklist you can use to help prioritise your spending:
- Venue & Ceremony: Choose a venue that doesn’t require a ton of decor—this could mean opting for an elegant, natural space.
- Attire: Consider off-the-rack wedding dresses or suits, which often cost less than custom options but still look fantastic.
- Photography: Invest in a photographer whose style suits your vision. You don’t need an extensive team—just a talented individual.
- Food & Drink: Go for a more casual option, like a buffet or family-style meal, which saves money without compromising on quality.
One of the biggest takeaways here is this: it’s possible to have an elegant, memorable wedding without breaking the bank. It’s all about knowing where to invest.
How to Create a Simple, Yet Comprehensive Planning List
Simple doesn’t mean chaotic, and this is where your planning list comes in. You still need to stay organised, even if you’re going with a minimalist approach.
Start by listing the essentials: ceremony location, reception, seating, food, photographer, and attire. Once you’ve done that, you can easily cut out the rest. It’s so tempting to get caught up in the little details—like fancy favours or elaborate signage—but these things often add more stress than value.
When I helped a couple in Elwood last year plan their relaxed beachside wedding, we created a list that focused solely on the things that mattered to them. No frills—just what they needed to make the day run smoothly. We eliminated things like a wedding party, seating charts, and large floral arrangements, and instead, they focused on having a great venue, excellent food, and good music.
Picking the Perfect Date and Defining Your Guest List
Choosing your wedding date and guest list go hand in hand. Keeping your guest list small is one of the best ways to simplify your wedding planning. The fewer people, the less you need to worry about.
I remember a couple from Geelong who were set on having an intimate wedding with only their closest 25 friends and family. We worked together to find a date that was convenient for everyone and set expectations right away. They sent out personalised, no-frills invitations, and everyone loved how personal and special the day felt. Their guest list wasn’t just about convenience—it was about creating a day with meaningful connections.
Here’s how I recommend you approach it:
- Guest List: Keep it small and intimate. Focus on your closest family and friends.
- Date: Choose a date that holds significance for you both, whether it’s the anniversary of when you met or a day that’s meaningful.
- Guest Expectations: Be clear with your guests about the small, intimate nature of the wedding. People will appreciate the honesty.
Choosing the Right Venue for Your Simple Wedding
How to Find a Venue That Needs Minimal Decoration
Now that your budget and planning are in place, it’s time to think about your venue. The key to a simple wedding is finding a location that needs little to no additional decoration. There’s a beauty in choosing a venue with natural charm, and Melbourne has so many wonderful options.
For example, last summer, I helped a couple from Brunswick who had a simple wedding at a local garden. The venue itself was naturally stunning—lush greenery, flowers in bloom, and an open-air space. They didn’t need fancy centrepieces or extravagant floral arrangements because the venue was already so beautiful. They put their resources towards quality photography and catering instead.
Look for venues like parks, beaches, gardens, or even small galleries that have an aesthetic feel. These places often don’t require much to look stunning, and this will save you both time and money.
Why All-Inclusive Venues Make Planning a Breeze
If you’re truly looking to simplify, an all-inclusive venue can be a godsend. A one-stop shop will offer everything you need: catering, alcohol, staff, rentals, and sometimes even a wedding coordinator. It takes a lot of pressure off, as you don’t need to coordinate everything yourself.
I worked with a couple in Fitzroy last year who chose an all-inclusive venue. They wanted a small, casual gathering, and this venue took care of the catering, seating, and bar. All they had to do was show up—everything was done for them. This streamlined their planning significantly and saved them a heap of time.
Non-Traditional Venues for a Unique, Low-Key Celebration
The beauty of planning a simple wedding is that you don’t have to conform to the traditional wedding venue mould. Melbourne offers so many non-traditional wedding venues that perfectly suit a minimalist approach.
I helped a couple in the Yarra Valley last year who chose a vineyard for their ceremony. They didn’t need grand decorations—just the beauty of the vines and the backdrop of the hills. Their reception was held in the vineyard’s rustic barn, which needed minimal effort to look stunning. The couple felt it truly reflected their personal style and gave the day a relaxed, effortless vibe.
You might want to consider other non-traditional venues like:
- Community Halls: Often overlooked, these are affordable and flexible venues. With a little decoration, they can transform into a warm and inviting space.
- Beaches and Parks: If you’re dreaming of an outdoor wedding, Melbourne’s coastline offers some stunning spots that require little to no extra adornment.
- Private Residences or Backyards: If you’re looking for a more intimate feel, hosting your wedding in someone’s backyard or a private home can be a great way to save on venue costs. One of my favourite memories is of a couple who tied the knot in their Melbourne apartment’s rooftop garden, overlooking the city. They didn’t need anything extra to make it memorable—just the gorgeous view and their loved ones.
The key is finding a space that complements the atmosphere you want to create, rather than one that requires hours of decoration.
Understanding What’s Included in Your Venue Hire
Before you lock in your venue, make sure you understand exactly what’s included in the price. Some venues offer packages that include seating, catering, and even wedding coordination, while others may only provide the space itself. Knowing what’s covered will help you plan more efficiently and avoid any nasty surprises.
For example, the couple from Fitzroy I mentioned earlier got an all-inclusive package that covered everything from the chairs to the food. It made their life so much easier, and they didn’t have to worry about coordinating with multiple vendors.
Plan for the Weather: Outdoor Venues and Backup Plans
Melbourne’s weather can be a bit unpredictable, so if you’re planning an outdoor ceremony, always have a backup plan in place. I worked with a couple in the Dandenong Ranges who planned an outdoor wedding but made sure to secure an indoor option just in case. Fortunately, the sun was shining, but if it had rained, they would’ve had a lovely indoor ceremony in the same venue.
If you’re opting for an outdoor setting, check that the venue has provisions in place for weather changes. Make sure the space is covered in case of rain, or that there’s an indoor alternative for the reception.
Simple Wedding Vendors: How to Keep Things Easy and Affordable
How to Choose Vendors That Align with Your Simple Wedding Vision
Choosing the right vendors is crucial, even for a simple wedding. But it’s important to remember that just because you’re keeping things low-key doesn’t mean you should settle for subpar quality.
I recall a couple from Hawthorn who worked with a photographer who specialised in intimate, relaxed weddings. She had a natural, unposed style that captured the essence of their day without feeling forced. They didn’t need a team of photographers—just her and a second shooter to get those beautiful candid moments.
Here are a few tips when selecting vendors:
- Know What You Want: Be clear about the vibe you’re going for. You don’t need an elaborate team of vendors. Find professionals who align with your simple, understated vision.
- Get Recommendations: Ask your network for recommendations, or check out local wedding websites like Easy Weddings for Melbourne-based vendors.
- Interview Before You Hire: Chat with vendors over the phone or in person. Make sure they understand your simple wedding vision and that their style fits with your needs.
Affordable Catering and Photography: Tips for Hiring Professionals
Catering can be one of the largest wedding expenses, but it doesn’t have to be complicated. You can serve delicious, high-quality food without going overboard. One couple I helped last year opted for a casual but elegant food truck that served gourmet tacos at their wedding in St Kilda. It was a fun, low-maintenance option that fit perfectly with their relaxed wedding vibe.
For photography, you don’t need to spend a fortune. Look for photographers who offer smaller packages for intimate weddings. Some photographers, like those in Melbourne’s inner suburbs, have a niche in small-scale weddings and are familiar with how to capture those special moments without overwhelming you with a huge team. This way, you’re paying for quality and attention, not the extra costs.
Attire and Decorations: Choosing Simple, Elegant Styles
Wedding attire and decorations don’t have to be extravagant to make a statement. In fact, opting for simple, elegant choices can make your wedding day feel more cohesive and stress-free.
Take it from me—I’ve seen brides walk down the aisle in beautifully simple dresses that were just as stunning as the grand, layered gowns. A bride I worked with in Elwood chose a simple silk wedding dress that required little alteration. She felt comfortable, beautiful, and didn’t have to spend a fortune. The same goes for the groom. Opting for a classic suit or even casual attire for a relaxed vibe can be just as fitting.
For decor, go minimal. You don’t need extravagant centrepieces to set the tone. A few carefully chosen floral arrangements or candles can create an intimate and elegant atmosphere. For example, at a recent wedding in the Yarra Valley, the couple used wildflowers and rustic wooden centrepieces, which added just the right amount of charm without feeling overdone.
Simplifying the Details: Key Elements of a Simple Wedding
Invitations and Favours: Keep It Minimal but Meaningful
When it comes to invitations, you don’t need fancy paper or complex designs. The trend towards simple, digital invitations is growing in popularity, especially for couples looking to save on printing and postage costs. A couple I worked with in Melbourne opted for stylish, minimal digital invites and received rave reviews from their guests.
For wedding favours, keep them personal, practical, and cost-effective. A bride in Richmond gave out small jars of honey from a local beekeeper, which was a meaningful and affordable way to thank her guests. Keep your favours in line with your theme—simple and heartfelt.
The Perfect Simple Wedding Cake and Other Refreshments
Let’s be honest—wedding cakes are a staple, but you don’t need a multi-tiered extravaganza to impress. One couple in Fitzroy had a single-tier, naked cake decorated with fresh flowers. It was the perfect touch for their small, elegant wedding, and it didn’t cost a fortune.
You can also offer simple refreshments like wine, beer, or a limited cocktail menu. Remember, it’s not about the quantity; it’s about providing your guests with what they need for a relaxed, enjoyable celebration. A couple I worked with in Geelong kept their reception drinks menu simple: a choice of local wines and craft beer. It was perfect for their laid-back crowd.
Reducing Wedding Day Stress with a Shorter Timeline
I always recommend a shorter wedding timeline, especially for a simple wedding. The longer the day, the more stress can build. Stick to what matters and avoid filling the day with unnecessary traditions. One couple I worked with in Port Melbourne shortened their timeline significantly—ceremony at 3 PM, dinner at 5 PM, and dancing by 7 PM. It kept things relaxed and allowed for more time to actually enjoy the day with their guests.
Reducing Wedding Day Stress with a Shorter Timeline
If there’s one thing I’ve learned after years of watching weddings unfold, it’s that a shorter timeline can do wonders for reducing stress. The day can go by in a blur, and if you fill it up with unnecessary activities, it can quickly become overwhelming.
Take, for example, a couple from Ballarat who decided to condense their wedding timeline. Their ceremony began at 3 PM, followed by a relaxed dinner at 5 PM. They cut out a lot of traditional elements, like a long reception speech or multiple dances, which allowed everyone to focus on enjoying the event and each other’s company. It was refreshing to see how much more relaxed and meaningful the day felt because they stuck to what truly mattered.
You don’t need a packed schedule—keep it simple and focus on the moments that will create the most lasting memories. By shortening your timeline, you not only reduce stress but also ensure that every part of the day is meaningful and enjoyable.
Seating, Ceremony, and Extra Details to Skip
Simple doesn’t mean leaving everything up to chance. It’s about finding that sweet spot between structure and spontaneity.
For seating, there’s no rule that says you need a formal seating chart. For a small, intimate wedding, consider skipping the place cards and seating assignments. Instead, have guests pick their spots wherever they feel comfortable. I remember a lovely wedding in St Kilda where the bride and groom decided to let people choose where to sit during the ceremony. It felt natural, and the laid-back vibe was a hit.
When it comes to your ceremony, skip traditions that don’t resonate with you. Focus on what’s meaningful for you as a couple. For example, many couples choose to write their own vows, which personalises the ceremony and allows for a more genuine expression of love.
As for other details, like expensive shoes or elaborate guest books, ask yourself whether they align with the simplicity you’re aiming for. Some couples even skip the garter toss and bouquet throw. At a wedding in Mornington Peninsula, the bride opted for a casual, heartfelt ceremony and didn’t bother with those traditional “extras.” The result? A focused, memorable event that felt truly their own.
The Human Element: Help, Expectations, and Focus
Delegate and Get Help from Loved Ones to Keep Things Relaxed
Let’s be honest—no one can do it all, and a simple wedding doesn’t mean doing everything yourself. When I helped a couple from Elsternwick plan their no-frills wedding, they were adamant about keeping things low-key. But they quickly realised that there were plenty of family and friends who were happy to lend a hand. One family member took on the role of MC, another handled decorations, and a friend helped with setting up the ceremony space. It took so much pressure off the couple.
Don’t be afraid to delegate. Tap into the skills of those around you, whether it’s a talented friend who can take photos or a cousin who’s a bit of a wizard with flowers. It will save you time and stress, and it allows your loved ones to feel more involved and connected to your big day.
Setting Expectations and Avoiding Pressure
It’s incredibly important to set boundaries early on. I’ve worked with so many couples who’ve faced pressure from family and friends to “do more” or “have a bigger event.” One couple in Glen Iris faced a bit of pushback when they told family they were going for a small, intimate ceremony, but after setting clear expectations, everyone understood. They communicated that the day was about them, their love, and their commitment, without the bells and whistles.
When you’re planning a simple wedding, it’s essential to stay true to what you want. You don’t have to explain yourself to anyone. Your wedding should be a reflection of you as a couple. Don’t let external pressure overshadow the joy of the day.
Focus on Connections: Quality Over Quantity
The beauty of a simple wedding is that it allows you to focus on your relationships. With fewer guests, you get the chance to spend quality time with the people who mean the most to you. You don’t have to worry about accommodating distant relatives or acquaintances that you don’t have much of a connection with.
I remember working with a couple from Hawthorn who had a very small wedding of just 20 people. They spent the day truly connecting with each person, sharing meaningful conversations, and creating memories that were both personal and special. It felt like a reunion of close friends and family, and everyone had a chance to make a real connection with the couple.
When you have fewer guests, you’re not only cutting down on stress and costs, but also creating space for deeper connections. And isn’t that what a wedding should be about?
Types of Simple Weddings: Which Style Suits You?
Micro-Weddings, Minimonies, and Elopements: What’s the Difference?
In my experience, the terms micro-wedding, minimony, and elopement are often used interchangeably, but they each come with their own nuances. Let me break it down for you:
- Micro-Weddings: These weddings are usually smaller than traditional weddings but still include a ceremony and reception. Typically, they host anywhere from 20 to 50 guests. I worked with a couple from Port Melbourne who had a beautiful micro-wedding in a vineyard, inviting just 30 close friends and family. It was intimate but still had the full wedding experience—just on a smaller scale.
- Minimonies: A minimony is typically a tiny ceremony, often with just the couple and a handful of guests. Sometimes, it’s followed by a larger celebration later. A couple I assisted in the Yarra Valley had a minimony with only four guests, then planned a larger reception a year later for extended family and friends.
- Elopements: An elopement is the simplest of them all—just the couple, possibly an officiant and photographer. Think of it as a “just us” wedding experience. A couple in Geelong eloped to a private beach, with a local officiant and a photographer capturing the moment. It was intimate, meaningful, and completely stress-free.
Each of these options offers something different, and the choice depends on your personal preferences and priorities. Do you want something small but still festive? A micro-wedding might be right for you. Or are you craving something truly intimate? An elopement might be the best fit.
Let’s Get Straight to the Point
Planning a simple wedding is about focusing on what truly matters: love, connection, and a stress-free day. By prioritising the essentials—like a budget-friendly venue, a smaller guest list, and meaningful details—you can create a beautiful, memorable celebration without the pressure of grand traditions. Choose a venue that requires little decoration, simplify your vendor list, and embrace a relaxed timeline. The key is to keep the focus on your relationship and enjoy the process without getting bogged down by unnecessary details.
