What Are The Duties Of The Bridesmaid?

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    Being asked to be a bridesmaid is more than just a fun honour—it’s a commitment. For many, it’s a sign that the bride values your friendship and wants you by her side on one of the most significant days of her life. But with that privilege comes responsibility.

    Whether you’ve been a bridesmaid before or are about to step into the role for the first time, understanding the full scope of your duties is key. The role of a bridesmaid has evolved over time from providing literal protection to the bride (yes, there was once a time when bridesmaids were literally there to ward off evil spirits) to focusing on emotional support and practical assistance. It’s no longer just about looking good in the wedding photos—it’s about being the bride’s right-hand person and ensuring everything goes smoothly.

    From the pre-wedding events like bridal showers and bachelorette parties to the big day itself, bridesmaids are the unsung heroes who keep everything on track. In this guide, we’ll break down the essential duties and responsibilities, share some personal anecdotes from my own experience as a bridesmaid, and offer tips to help you support the bride while keeping your own sanity intact.

    Let’s take a closer look at what it means to be a bridesmaid, and how you can nail your role to perfection.

    Time Commitments and Pre-Wedding Responsibilities

    The pre-wedding commitments are usually the first thing bridesmaids are asked to take part in. From bridal showers to bachelorette parties, these events are key moments where the bridal party comes together to show their support for the bride.

    In my experience, I learned that attending these events is just as important as the wedding day itself. It’s one of the ways you help build excitement and offer support leading up to the big day. You’ll likely have dress fittings, bachelorette parties, bridal showers, and perhaps even a rehearsal dinner to attend. You’ll need to be ready for a few busy months.

    Wedding Day Duties

    Getting the Bride Ready for Her Big Day

    The wedding day is finally here, and as a bridesmaid, your role is more important than ever. This is when all your behind-the-scenes support comes into play. The bride is probably feeling a mix of excitement and nerves, and your job is to ensure she’s ready to walk down the aisle looking and feeling her best.

    One of the first things I did on a wedding day as a bridesmaid was help the bride with her dress. It’s not as simple as just slipping it on. There’s a lot of adjusting, zipping, and ensuring the dress sits perfectly. I remember my own bridesmaid experience when we were helping the bride with her gown. The bustle on her dress was tricky, but with a bit of teamwork, we managed to get it sorted just in time for the ceremony. Pro tip: Watch YouTube videos ahead of time on how to bustle a wedding gown—you never know when that knowledge will come in handy!

    Another key task is helping the bride stay calm. Wedding day stress is a real thing. I always make sure to check in on the bride and remind her to stay hydrated, eat something light, and take a breather when needed. These small gestures can help the bride keep her composure and feel in control.

    When I was a bridesmaid, I also helped the bride with her veil and makeup touch-ups. Every time she needed a quick fix, I was there to assist, ensuring she looked flawless for the photographer’s lens.

    Participating in Wedding Photos and Ceremony

    As a bridesmaid, you’re not just a bystander—you’re an active participant in the ceremony and the wedding photos. Stand by the bride’s side during the ceremony, ready to hand her tissues or make any last-minute adjustments to her dress or veil.

    Let’s be real for a moment: Wedding photos can be a marathon. I’ve been in weddings where the photography session felt like it took forever, and at times it was tough to stay engaged. But I always kept a positive attitude because I knew how important those photos were to the couple. I’d encourage other bridesmaids to smile, stay engaged, and focus on making the bride the centre of attention.

    One of the most memorable moments I had as a bridesmaid was helping the bride with her bouquet during the vows. During the ceremony, she needed a free hand to hold her partner’s hand, so I stepped in and held her bouquet for a few moments—just a simple gesture, but it helped ease her nerves.

    Wedding Day Coordination and Assistance

    Your role doesn’t stop once the ceremony ends. There’s still a lot of coordination happening behind the scenes. Be prepared to step into the role of problem-solver, especially if there’s no wedding planner on hand.

    In my experience, we didn’t have a wedding planner, so the bridal party had to take charge. This meant that during the reception, I was responsible for making sure everything stayed on track. I made sure guests were enjoying themselves, and when a few guests got lost on their way to the venue, I helped direct them. No detail is too small when it comes to the bride’s big day—if it’s within your power to help, do it.

    In some weddings, bridesmaids are tasked with keeping an eye on the schedule, ensuring that things are happening on time, especially when it comes to speeches, dances, or any scheduled activities. For example, at one wedding, I was in charge of letting the bride know when it was time to cut the cake and kick off the first dance. A simple but crucial role!

    Post-Wedding Responsibilities

    Helping with Clean-Up and Gift Collection

    The wedding might be over, but your job isn’t done yet. After the ceremony and reception, there are still a few things that need to be taken care of. One key task is helping the bride gather her personal belongings. This includes collecting any gifts, cards, or leftover decorations. It’s a good idea to have a designated area or box where the bride can store these items so they don’t get misplaced in the flurry of activity.

    I remember once helping a bride collect her personal items after the reception, only to realise that some guests had left without taking their wedding favours. I quickly organised the items and got them packed up, which saved the bride a lot of hassle the next day.

    Additionally, you may need to help with clean-up if the venue doesn’t have a team to handle it. This might mean collecting used table settings, decorations, or even taking down signs that were set up for the day. While this might seem like an afterthought, it helps the bride transition smoothly from the wedding celebration to the next phase of her life.

    Sharing Photos and Videos with the Couple

    After the wedding, bridesmaids often help gather photos and videos taken by the wedding party. Since the couple will likely be too busy to document the day themselves, it’s great to take some behind-the-scenes shots on your phone, especially during the ceremony, reception, or even moments of the bridal party getting ready.

    At one wedding I attended, I was in charge of capturing a few candid shots that the professional photographer didn’t get. These photos became some of the bride’s favourites, and it was a small but meaningful way to contribute to the couple’s memories.

    Continue to Be a Supportive Friend After the Wedding

    The bride will need your support even after the wedding day is over. Don’t disappear after the big event. I’ve seen bridesmaids who maintained their role long after the wedding, checking in with the bride as she settles into married life.

    A simple act of supporting the bride post-wedding could be as easy as helping her with thank-you notes or just keeping in touch and ensuring she feels appreciated. Being a bridesmaid doesn’t stop once the confetti falls—it’s about maintaining a meaningful relationship long after the day has passed.

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    Maid of Honor vs. Bridesmaid Duties

    It’s important to note that there’s a distinction between the roles of the Maid of Honor and the Bridesmaids. The Maid of Honor is often the bride’s go-to person, the one who takes charge of the planning and oversees the bridesmaids. In my own experience as a Maid of Honor, I took on more leadership tasks like coordinating the bridal shower, managing the bridal party’s schedule, and giving the speech during the reception.

    Bridesmaids, on the other hand, support the Maid of Honor and assist in whatever way they can. From attending events to helping with wedding day logistics, bridesmaids have their own unique, important roles in the bridal party. The key is to work together to ensure the bride’s day runs smoothly.

    What Bridesmaids Shouldn’t Be Asked to Do

    Lastly, while being a bridesmaid is an important job, there are certain things you shouldn’t be expected to handle. Do not take on roles that are meant for professionals, such as wedding planners, photographers, or caterers. These jobs are best left to experts, and it’s important to remember that you’re there to support, not to overwhelm yourself with professional duties.

    How to Embrace the Bridesmaid Role

    Now that we’ve covered the core duties, let’s wrap up with a few top tips to help you embrace the role and ensure you’re the best bridesmaid you can be:

    1. Stay Organised: Keep track of all the pre-wedding events, dress fittings, and meetings. A dedicated planner or calendar app can help you stay on top of your commitments. Trust me, it’s the best way to avoid the stress of last-minute scrambling.

    2. Be Flexible: Weddings rarely go exactly as planned. Whether it’s a last-minute change in schedule or unexpected issues with vendors, be adaptable and ready to step in whenever needed. Your ability to adjust and stay calm will be invaluable to the bride.

    3. Offer Your Help Early: Don’t wait for the bride to ask. Be proactive and offer your help as soon as possible. Whether it’s assisting with vendor research, helping with decorations, or planning the bridal shower, a little initiative goes a long way.

    4. Focus on the Bride’s Needs: Above all, remember that your primary job is to make the bride’s experience as smooth and stress-free as possible. Keep her vision at the forefront, and support her in ways that matter to her.

    5. Stay Positive: Weddings can be stressful, but your attitude will set the tone. Keep the mood light, and focus on the excitement of the event, rather than any challenges that may arise.

    Being a bridesmaid is a lot more than just wearing a beautiful dress and standing at the altar. It’s about being a support system for the bride from the moment she gets engaged to the wedding day and beyond. From the pre-wedding events to post-wedding clean-up, there are numerous ways to show your love and support.

    The most important thing to remember is that, as a bridesmaid, you’re an essential part of the bride’s support team. Your positive attitude, organisational skills, and willingness to pitch in wherever needed will make a huge difference in ensuring that everything runs smoothly. Whether you’re managing the wedding day timeline or simply being a calm presence during stressful moments, you’re contributing to what will hopefully be one of the most memorable days of the bride’s life.

    Being a bridesmaid is a role that requires flexibility, empathy, and dedication, but it’s also incredibly rewarding. You get to play an integral part in making the bride’s dreams come true. And when the big day arrives, knowing you helped make it all happen is a feeling unlike any other.

    So, take a deep breath, roll up your sleeves, and get ready to make the bride’s day a success. After all, it’s an honour that only comes once in a lifetime—and you’re about to be part of something truly special.

    Eugene M
    Eugene M

    Eugene is a Melbourne-based wedding expert with over two decades of experience helping couples plan unforgettable celebrations. He’s been part of the wedding world since 2004 — guiding brides, grooms, families, and planners through venue selection, styling choices, timelines, and every important decision in between.

    In 2017, Eugene married his partner at Vogue Ballroom. The experience gave him firsthand knowledge of what couples need, want, and feel during the wedding process. Today, he combines this lived insight with years of professional expertise to help other couples get it right.

    Eugene can be contacted via [email protected]

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