What Are The Ways To Host An Elegant Farm Wedding?

However, whether you want to play up your surroundings or craft a day-of vibe that includes only hints of farm life, it's important to keep in mind a refined aesthetic—so things don't go over-the-top crafty! To keep the sophistication of your day top priority while still adding in rustic decor, we asked the wedding industry's elite in planning and design to help provide some tips—like turning seed packets into chic escort cards—for creating an event that doesn't lack style.

From playing up the colours of the season (whether the moody hues of fall or the pastel tones of spring) to incorporating farm-to-table floral arrangements, we've rounded up ideas to consider when hosting a farm wedding of your own.

A farmhouse wedding doesn't have to be rustic and vintage. Add some elegance to your farmhouse wedding to take it to the next level but implement some of these ideas below. You can have the best of both worlds. An elegant farmhouse wedding is just a few details away!

An elegant wedding focuses on the luxurious elements that bring it together and make it feel like a five-star event. It's all about extravagance and beauty, and often little consideration is given to the cost.

  • Hire musicians. Skip a DJ and go for a local band or a duelling piano group. 
  • Offer DIY food and drink ideas. 
  • Use one long family-style table. 
  • Create one or two custom drinks.
  • Take a group photo. 
  • Choose a non-traditional venue.
  • Start in the evening. 
  • Limit flowers.

Soft hues, delicate lighting, and plenty of florals typically make up a romantic wedding. Envision pastels, hanging lights (even chandeliers), calligraphy, and a flower wall for this theme.

Often called tiny weddings, a micro wedding is a stripped-down version of a traditional wedding with 30 or fewer guests. Micro weddings typically last two to three hours, which is long enough to have your ceremony followed by drinks and light bites, with some photos to mark the occasion.

A minimum usually involves an officiant (in-person or virtual), a small group of loved ones, and select vendors your larger wedding would include. Your minimony would include an experience:

  • Handwritten vows
  • The first dance on your balcony
  • Snapshots of details culled from your larger wedding


Focus On White

Make white one of your wedding colours to create a clean and crisp look. White makes everything pop while it stays true to the farmhouse feel. It also helps add a sense of sophistication and elegance to the wedding decor. Consider adding some white flowers to your bouquet or a white backdrop to the ceremony. The white details will match almost any decor and is an easy piece to add.

Add Some Sparkle

If you love things that shine, consider adding sparkle to your wedding decor. Perhaps some gold touches on the table in the form of a gold charger. Or maybe you'd like to add a sequined tablecloth to the cake table or the head table. Even consider some sparkle and shine in the form of shoes either for yourself or the bridesmaids. What about some shine in the form of fairy lights? Add some lighting to your reception either across the beams or hung outdoors. Whatever you decide to add, sparkle is never a bad idea.

Calligraphy Personalisation

Another way to step up your farmhouse wedding decor is to add some personalisation in calligraphy. First of all, consider a customised wedding sign to introduce your guests to your wedding. Secondly, create some beautiful hand-lettered escort cards or table settings to tell guests where to be seated at your reception. Finally, even consider a personalised monogrammed dance floor! Overall, there are many ways to add calligraphy to your wedding, and the touch of sophistication helps elevate your wedding to the next step.

Think Beyond The Basics

Another way to add elegant farmhouse touches to your wedding is to think beyond the basics. Think signature drinks or even mocktails. Think about offering cupcakes or cookies instead of the traditional cake. Think about unique and perhaps seasonal dishes instead of a traditional buffet or plated dinner. The more uniqueness you can implement into your wedding, the more elevated your wedding will feel to your guests.

If you're looking to host an elegant farmhouse wedding, remember that no detail is too small to be forgotten. The more you can customise the wedding to both of you as a couple, and the more elegance will come through. When in doubt, we have a whole team of wedding planners that we would be happy to recommend. Overall, your big day will be elegant and beautiful no matter which direction you decide to go. Happy wedding planning!

Reinvent Everyday Items

A unique twist on a wedding staple, Becca Atchison, founding partner and creative director of Rebecca Rose Events, incorporated farm elements into the design day by turning seed packets into striking escort cards. "Fresh foliage and flowers are often found in abundance on farms, and it makes all the sense in the world to incorporate and celebrate them in the overall wedding design," Atchison says.

Bring Your Reception Outside

With most barns accustomed to dimly lit interiors, Lauren Emerson, owner of Lauren Emerson Events & Design, suggests setting up an event space outside for part of your evening. "Allowing your guests to eat and dance al fresco will immediately elevate your guest experience," she says.

Include Farm-To-Table Florals

Along with your flower of choice, Jill Remy, owner of Jill & Co. Events, suggests taking your centrepieces one step further by incorporating farm-to-table organic elements. "Set bowls of figs and plums on the tables and use unexpected fruits and vegetables such as pomegranates and artichokes in your centrepieces," Remy suggests.

Consider A Minimalist Menu

Amy Mendes, event manager at Mezze Catering, recommends honouring classic farm design elements like vintage glassware, raw wood, and garden florals while considering a minimalist approach to your cuisine. "The 'less is more' attitude will make your design choices really pop and bring home the feeling of a farm wedding with a modern twist," adds Mendes.

Reinvent Antique Items

"Source vintage mirrors and perfume trays to create elegant signage with custom calligraphy," suggests Kate Whelan, owner and lead consultant at Kate Whelan Events. Then, add a metallic element to welcome signs and menu displays while incorporating a personal feel.

Use Draping

"Make sure to use and enhance the existing barn architecture where the wedding will occur," recommends Lauren Chitwood, owner of Lauren Chitwood Events.

Don't Forget To Look Up.

Melissa Porter, managing partner and wedding planner of Asheville Event Co., believes lighting can elevate any farm site. "Chandeliers and lighting can transform the most rustic space into an elegant reception venue," Porter says. Adding greenery to your lighting of choice can add even more romanticism to your design.

Use Seasonal Elements

"Rich, moody tones are of endless inspiration," says Gina Jokilehto-Schigel, owner and creative director of Shi Shi Events. "For an autumnal event, mix fig, marsala, and plum shades with classic wedding neutrals to nod to the drama of fall and the timeless wedding design," she says.

Remember Your Entrance

The entrance of your barn, or venue, is a great place to incorporate your wedding style. "Tall flower arrangements and beautiful draping make this barn entrance stand out," says Lindsey Nickel, owner of Lovely Day Events, describing the rustic and elegant display outside this ranch-style location.

Incorporate Traditional Farm Elements

Harvest favourites, wooden boxes, and assorted greenery can add an element of whimsy and authenticity to your farm's overall design. Kristin Doggett, co-founder and creative director of Bellafare, adorned this fall wedding with a corner of garden favourites like apples, lush plants, and rustic decor details.

Consider Mocktails

"We are always looking for a way to elevate that simple mocktail," says Bill Coyne, director of business development at Cloud Catering & Events. Although opting for mocktails is an alternative to the traditional cocktail, opting for mocktails is a refreshing way to serve non-alcoholic drinks during your event.

Plan Around Golden Hour

Make the most of your gorgeous setting with an outdoor cocktail hour as the sunsets. Brianna Sumey, sales director at Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards, says, "At golden hour, the elegant set-up will add a touch of sophistication to your barn wedding."

Integrate Custom Signage

Add touches of modernism into your design with custom signage. Jennifer Haf, owner and designer of Bloom Floral Design, added greenery and blush blooms to a contemporary welcome sign for these barn nuptials.

Serve Seasonal Cuisine

"I am continuously inspired by the great work of our farmers and build our menus around what they have at peak season," says John Karangis, executive chef of Union Square Events. Considering this and the couple's food likes and dislikes often dictate the final menu.

Take rustic engagement photos to announce your wedding. If you decide to take engagement photos and you know you are throwing a rustic wedding — why not incorporate the theme into the shots? Perhaps you've already chosen a rustic venue. Ask if you can use the property as a backdrop for your photos when there's no wedding underway. Or, you can hold your engagement photo shoot at a favourite outdoor spot. A barn where you like to go horseback riding? A state forest or riverside trail? A local park?

Rustic Wedding Ideas To Make Your Big Day Fit Your Vision:

Add rustic elements to your wedding website design. An engagement photo with a rustic vibe can centre stage on your website. Then go ahead and choose a website theme that coordinates and elevates — on The Wedding Spot, under 'Website Theme,' a great place to start is the 'Nature & Botanical' pull-down menu. Customise your colours to coordinate with your wedding colour scheme. 

Put a hint of rustic elegance in your invites. Whether you opt for digital invites, paper stationery, or design the invites from scratch, you can also incorporate the rustic theme here. Use the colours mentioned above and consider the materials:

  • Natural paper instead of high-gloss
  • String or twine instead of stickers
  • Unfinished edges 

Wedding favour ideas

Wedding favours are a lovely way to send guests home with a keepsake. They also serve as a decor element, either at the reception entrance or at each place setting. Look to the natural world for inspiration, and think about the season. 

Small potted succulents. The look changes depending on whether the pots are white, wood, or terra cotta. But no matter the pot, succulents are beautiful on display at your wedding and make a long-lasting, low-maintenance memento. 

Fresh local fruit. It doesn't get more natural, seasonal, or delicious. Unfortunately, the experience of eating the fruit itself is over in a blink, almost as quickly as the wedding. But if you like, you can provide the fruit in a decorative bag, basket, or pot that will stand the test of time.

Seed packets. Give your guests gifts that will keep on giving. Herbs are a popular choice, as they can be grown indoors or outdoors, or choose cutting flowers that tolerate various conditions. 

Hot cocoa. At a rustic winter wedding, warm your guests' hearts and hands afterwards with Mason-jar hot cocoa mix to take home. 

Mulled cider. Give guests measured mulling mix in a Mason jar, and attach instructions. 

Ideas For Settings And Venues

If you're all-in with the rustic theme, the setting is the place to start. We've got some classics to consider and some off-the-beaten-path rustic settings to throw in the mix. Check out venues and settings in your area on the Wedding Spot.  

But if an actual rustic backdrop isn't likely — perhaps your wedding is in the big city, or you're having your wedding in your parent's suburban backyard — don't forget you can still go rustic-chic with the decor!     

Barn wedding. A rustic favourite. You might find a wedding barn on an alpaca farm, at a vacation rental, or at a site where a barn has been purpose-built for weddings. Barn weddings have risen in popularity in recent years. 

Horse farm. Rolling green acres make a beautifully picturesque setting. Ensure ample parking and that the barn's ceremony and reception locations are upwind.

Mountain log cabin. Beautiful backdrops and a location large enough to hold a wedding party indoors. Consider possibly challenging transportation logistics, for decor, vendors, and guests, particularly in winter. 

Forest retreat. Collections of cabins mean you and your guests don't have to worry about post-reception transportation. Give everyone time to get unpacked and make themselves comfortable before the festivities.

Camping venues. Some couples love camping and want to make that part of their special day. Combination venues with a mix of tent campsites, cabins, and 'glamping' are best. Experienced campers can set up their campsites, while guests who want (or need) things less rustic have that option.  

Vineyards. Like horse farms, vineyards are well known for their acres of incredible scenery. Stacks of wine barrels make lovely backdrops for wedding photos. Plus, there's plenty of good wine on hand. 

Breweries. As microbreweries spring up and develop loyal followings, they become popular alternatives for couples who prefer fermented hops over fermented grapes.

Distilleries. These hip and unusual rustic venues are becoming more popular for rehearsal dinners and wedding receptions.

Urban lofts. City lofts' exposed brick and wood beams make the perfect backdrop for rustic wedding decorations. Strings of small fairy lights look especially lovely in these settings.

Ranches. Ranches in the Western US offer wide-open spaces, ample parking, and plenty of wide-open country chic.

Farms. Farms offer photo ops with cute barnyard animals and rows of lush crops. At working ranches and farms, get very clear on which areas are open to guests and which are not.

Greenhouses. The lush environment within a greenhouse venue makes an exquisite pairing with rustic elements, such as unfinished wood pallets hung with lights and wood-plank tables. 

Historic homes. Lovingly restored landmark homes often also have beautifully tended grounds. Use the natural beauty of the outdoor setting for a simple ceremony, then add rustic elements inside the reception room, such as bunches of pussy willow on tables with denim table runners. 

Museums. Museums come in many types and sizes — art museums, science, history, natural history, etc. Many are set on acres and acres of land, with hiking trails and varied reception spaces. 

Parks. Public parks will require permits, but they can be low-cost and beautiful settings for rustic weddings. Consider the bathroom situation and your bad-weather backup plan early in the planning.

Wooden backdrop. You can dress up a wooden backdrop of pallets or a purpose-built wooden wall with a translucent curtain, white lights, and flowers. It is a rustic and so-easy option that makes an impact.  

Gauzy backdrop. String up tulle or another light fabric. Rustic flower arrangements or leafy vines look great hanging down in front of the fabric, as do strings of bare bulbs.

Flower backdrop. Pack the blooms close together to create a flower wall depending on the look you want. Or use a wood lattice and arrange the blooms sparingly to cover a larger area.   

Wild florals and greenery. No need to tightly curate the florals at a rustic wedding. Cultivate a wild look with a hodge-podge mix of greenery, vines, wheat, pinecones, and succulents. 

Add florals to the wedding party's look. Coordinate with the flowers in the decor and put some flowers on yourself and the entire wedding party. Instead of carrying a bouquet, consider a floral cuff, necklace, crown, or boutonniere.


If you're looking for a unique wedding venue, consider hosting your event on a farm. There are many ways to make your farm wedding elegant and memorable. You can create a charming and romantic setting for your big day by using natural elements and decorating with rustic touches. We hope these ideas have inspired you to consider a farm wedding of your own!

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