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How to Write Unconventional Wedding Vows? 

Modern couples are increasingly opting for nontraditional vows.

The vows portion of wedding ceremonies may become less common as time goes on and more individuals abandon religious practises. Not only that, but even religious people are beginning to show more tolerance towards such groups and actions.

This leaves a little room for unconventional wedding vows and a creative touch on ones once in a lifetime wedding ceremony. Here, we'll go over some unconventional approaches to writing your wedding vows.

So now we have some freedom of choice, some originality, and some drive, but where do we begin?

Let's take a look back at some of the most traditional and unique wedding vows.

  • Obviously, some names
  • Through sickness and in health.
  • For better or worse.
  • For rich or for poor.
  • Until death does us part.

Ok. The majority of our effort will be spent emphasising the above elements, which can serve as a guide. This style of putting these phrases can be rough around the edges, but they are also authentic and somewhat cliche. We'd rather not use cliches, and we want to sound threatening rather than religious.(If you do want to sound that way that’s ok too. This guide is mostly for alternative wedding vows).


It's safe to assume that you're in the correct mindset to read this. Research. Listen to several promises. Learn more about the original vows of many religions and cultures. Learn from the experiences of others and take in the big picture of what promises mean to various individuals. Of course, the manner in which they articulate this sentiment is as important. Take some time to plan out your response. Plan out your words carefully.

Here are some easy questions to try to answer:

  1. Exactly what is it about your significant other that you find so appealing?
  2. What makes this person worthy of your hand in marriage?
  3. Why do you think you can spend the rest of your life with this person?
  4. What are you willing to give up in order to be with this person?
  5. Once you get married, how do you think your life will change?
  6. Tell me about the best time you had with your significant other.
  7. Tell me about the three best moments you've shared with your spouse.


Attempt to lead with your address. And certainly not where you now reside. Talk to the one you're about to wed. This is your partner. If you think it's appropriate, you can use their name in the beginning of your vows. Some people might want to take this extra step, but it's not required. It may have broken a record of some kind. It's superfluous, perhaps, but it adds a touch of formality.


Include interests or hobbies that you and your partner enjoy doing together. While this is a fairly overused example, it serves the purpose of this post, so I'll use it. Assume for a moment that we have a pair of sailors.

They may then leverage a shared creative interest to form a partnership, for example, by saying, "You'll be my captain, I'll be your first mate." In the same vein.


So, this is all about keeping our word, right? Think about the significance of marriage in your life. Here are a few question prompts: In what ways will your relationship evolve once you've taken the plunge and made a public commitment to one another? Exactly why are you spending so much time with this person?

Exactly what do they provide that you lacked before? What do you provide them that they didn't have before? In what ways are you a more powerful unit? Summarize these thoughts.


Multiple metaphors exist to characterise the passage of time. You're going to take forever to explain this. Marriage is typically intended to be permanent. You can disregard this advice if you are a Viking (just kidding Vikings). Attempts have been made to define love for countless generations. Involuntary, endless devotion. Here's your chance to do it. This is a crucial component of your promises to each other. Review your character flaws once more.

Even if they are a terrible cliché, sailors may be used as an example once more: till the sun refuses to set. Or something equally corny! Typical stereotypical relationship, which makes them corny. Yours will not be trite. The vows you exchange will be heartfelt and unique. You will gain a deeper understanding of wedding vow composition after reading this.

Talk it over with your partner

It's likely that both of you are reading this in advance to better prepare. Unless you want your partner to be caught off guard, you should tell them your vows before you say them. A decent ceremony requires vows that are consistent with those used in other ceremonies. Embarrassing your partner is something neither of you wants to happen. There could be awkwardness at the wedding if you take a lot of time to write beautiful, meaningful vows but your partner hasn't. It's easier to avoid hiccups if you talk things out in advance. Especially if you're not too rushed before the big day!


If you're getting married a long time from now, you can write a rough draught. Now or very soon, you should write a rough draught. Take some time to reflect, maybe even keeping a journal. When inspiration strikes, jot down your thoughts so you can refer to them later. This is an example of a rough draught, a common method of writing. When you have a lot of spare time, you can each do some freewriting and then compare your results. Keep in mind that your vows are not have to be exactly the same. In addition to being aesthetically pleasing, sticking to a set format can boost your productivity.

Truthfulness is required.

Keep in mind that you are not writing a report or a research paper. This isn't a newspaper item from the 1950s or a biblical verse your grandfather made up. Your promises to one another as a couple are spelt out in these vows. The partners have entered into a serious, long-term commitment. Today, you can choose to be an individual and express your individuality without fear of repercussion. This is merely an additional venue in which to exercise said right. If you're clear and honest about your commitments, you'll feel more fulfilled by them.

To help you get started, we have compiled a list of sentences to assist you in writing your vows. Hope they help.

Wedding Vows Ideas For Her

Grooms Wedding Speech to Guests on Boat ·

  • You are the love of my life.
  • You are the only one I’d ever spend eternity with.
  • I promise to love you until death does us part.
  • I promise to stand by you through the times when you are sick.
  • Your happiness means everything to me, and I promise to always put you before myself.
  • I promise to cherish you and to love you through the tough times.
  • I will never take you for granted.
  • I promise to remain faithful to you forever.
  • I will be true to you throughout our many years of marriage to come.
  • Our love means everything to me, and it is stronger than anything in the world.
  • I promise never to let anyone or anything happen between us.
  • I will cherish every waking moment I get to spend with you, my love.
  • My life would be boring without you.
  • You give new meaning to my life.
  • I promise to always stand by your side.
  • Through any tough times, there may be throughout our marriage.
  • There will be disagreements, fights, and challenges we will face.
  • But as long as you are by my side, I am not afraid. Although the times ahead may not always be happy, I will love you through all of it.
  • I promise always to be honest with you, and to forgive you.
  • I promise to trust you.
  • I believe you with my heart, and I will always trust you.
  • I promise to treat you as my equal and give you the respect that you deserve.
  • I promise never to treat you as if you are any less of a person than I am.
  • I promise to always be by your side.
  • I promise always to be there when you need a shoulder to cry on.
  • I will still be there for you even in the toughest of times.
  • I will be there for you when you complain, and I will always be there to comfort you.
  • You are the best thing that has ever come into my life, and words cannot explain how much I love, adore, and cherish you being in my life.
  • I am the luckiest person in the world to have such a wonderful person by my side.
  • I promise to cherish every moment with you and love you forever.
  • Love is a strong word, but it is the perfect word to describe how I feel about you.
  • You are everything to me, and I cannot wait to spend eternity with you.
  • Every love is different, and ours is unique; special; and unusual.
  • There is no one in this world I would rather spend my life with.
  • I will forever love you. I Love You.
    Wedding Vows Ideas For Him
  • These are my vows to you, my love, my soul mate.
  • I love you more than words can say, and I promise to cherish you throughout the many years to come.
  • You have been my best friend through tough times, and I promise to be there for you whenever you need me.
  • You are the best thing that has ever happened to me. Words do not explain how much I love you. I promise to forever and always love you until the end.
  • There will be times in our marriage when life will not be so great.
  • Challenges await us in this infinity of love.
  • I promise to love you through the tough times and be there for you when you are going through a tough time.
  • I will always be honest with you, and I will never betray your trust. Your trust means the world to me.
  • I promise to be patient with you.I will never hold a grudge against you, and I promise always to forgive you.
  • There will be times in life where we won’t always agree.Times where we are fighting, but I promise to stand by you during those times.
  • I will never let one disagreement drive a wedge between us.
  • I promise to be the best that I can be in parenthood.
  • I promise to do my best to give the child everything that it wants.
  • I will love the child as it is a symbol of our love.
  • I promise to support you in anything you decide to do.
  • I promise to treat you as my equal and treat you with the highest respect that you so deserve.You are a real gift from God, and I promise to cherish you. I promise to stand by you in sickness and in health.
  • I will never leave you no matter what.This life would mean nothing if you did not come into it.
  • Every day with you is a gift, and I promise to treasure each and every day I get to spend with you.
  • Our love is stronger than anything, and I promise never to let anyone come between us.
  • I promise always to be faithful, and to be true to you throughout the many years to come.
  • I promise to put you before me for your happiness means more to me than anything in the world.
  • To see your smiling face each and every day is a gift I will forever cherish.
  • There are a million love stories in the world but ours, my love, is my favorite one of them all.
  • There is not one person on this earth I’d rather spend my life with and respect than you. I love you!


That's the general concept, anyway. Take a good look at your surroundings. Take the time to read numerous promises and messages. Recognize the qualities that define you. Find the things you have in common with your companion. Think of a strategy to get across the essentials. Please refrain from utilising the same same old clichés in your vows. Use your imagination.

With any luck, you now have a better grasp on the art of writing wedding vows. Hopefully, at the very least, it will encourage you to write more honestly and openly. Don't be afraid to break the rules and just be yourself. It's your wedding day, and you can craft your own vows if you put in the time and effort.

Frequently Asked Questions About Wedding Vows

If you're really struggling with knowing how long your vows should be, Peterson advises sticking to the ideal length of two to three minutes 'This is long enough to communicate the details of your love story, your partner's qualities, and your promises while also being short enough to keep everyone's attention. 
What Not to Say in Your Wedding Vows
  • Don't Overshare. There are certain things that are better left unsaid. 
  • Don't Rely Too Much on Inside Jokes. 
  • Don't Reference Sex. 
  • Don't Make a Joke at Your Partner's Expense. 
  • Don't Hyperbolize.

In a traditional wedding ceremony order, the vows are followed by the ring exchange. The groom usually goes first, though we invite you to be progressive. He puts the wedding band on the bride's finger while repeating a phrase like, “I give this ring as a sign of my love.” Then, it's the bride's turn.

For contemporary-minded couples, speaking their vows from memory is part of their commitment to one another as they marry. An easier step may be to memorize the traditional vows, which for many are familiar words and phrases. But first, don't think this can be done the night before or the week before.

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