After spending your life savings on bachelor and bachelorette parties, a wedding venue, a dress, and everything else, you might be wondering whether going on a honeymoon is worth the additional expense. What is a honeymoon even for, anyway?
History shows that people have been going on honeymoons since the 5th century. Couples would celebrate their first “moon” of marriage by drinking mead, hence the “honey.” Nowadays, folks escape to tropical destinations or go for romps around Europe and they have plenty of reasons for doing so.
The honeymoon trip, so much a part of today’s marriage, is of fairly recent origin. In planning such a trip, newlyweds should keep in mind that they are beginning a long journey through life together. A honeymoon, therefore, is no time for strenuous travelling and sight-seeing, especially if the time at their disposal is short. It should be long enough to escape the horseplay of their friends and short enough so that they will not become bored with each other. Because of the strain and tension during the days preceding their wedding, newlyweds should seek a place of rest and quiet. Getting off on the right foot in marriage is important.
In making honeymoon plans, the couple should not only eliminate fatiguing sight-seeing; they should face up squarely to the problem of finances. To avoid financial difficulties, it is well for them to form a budget at the outset. Overspending on a honeymoon is no way to start a marriage.
Making use of the matter of the sacrament and the contract of marriage also has its problems. Newlyweds will have no difficulty here if they remember that sex adjustment takes time, patience, respect, and consideration for the other person’s feelings and attitudes. Haste, lack of the most tender consideration, ignorance of each other’s sex nature, and an absence of complete trust in each other can shatter the happiness of the honeymoon, if not the happiness of marriage itself. That is why it is all-important for those about to marry to consult an intelligent Catholic doctor and priest to learn the positive side of chastity in marriage.
In planning a honeymoon trip, newlyweds should keep in mind that they are beginning a long journey through life together.
Some newlyweds spend their honeymoon in the privacy and comfort of their own apartment or home. They do this to eliminate the problems of fatigue and finances that so frequently take their toll of those beginning married life. There is something to say for this type of honeymoon. Providing adequate privacy is assured, money the couple save, which otherwise would have been spent on travelling and hotel accommodations can now be spent on home or apartment furnishings. It has frequently happened that honeymooners have returned home only to wish that they had not made such an expensive wedding trip. Before embarking on the road of life together, a smart couple should weigh both types of honeymoon.
Sometimes I get weird looks from couples when I tell them that taking a honeymoon will be one of the most important things that a newly wedded couple is going to experience. Besides the obvious benefits of a honeymoon, there are some other items to consider, such as:
Table of Contents
- 1 To Relax
- 2 To Celebrate
- 3 To Adjust
- 4 To Be Intimate
- 5 To Explore
- 6 To Taste
- 7 To Plan for the Future
- 8 Your honeymoon sets the tone for your new life
- 9 A honeymoon is a wonderful way to create a yearly tradition
- 10 Because you are worth it, and you both deserve it!
- 11 Because a mini-moon may leave you feeling cheated
- 12 Back to basics
- 13 Honeymoons are Important to Early Marriage Success
- 14 A meaningful honeymoon requires time, not cash
No matter how small and minimal your wedding may be, it’s bound to be at least a little bit stressful. If you’re like most couples, you’ll spend the bulk of your wedding night feeling like you’re entertaining guests rather than celebrating each other, so it’s essential to finish it all off with something relaxing for just the two of you.
Weddings are fun and all, but they can be a lot of work for the bride and groom. Honeymoons are an opportunity to celebrate not just your love, but the fact that the big day is, at last, over with.
It’s going to take some time to get used to a name change or a new title or to get accustomed to living together if you haven’t before. Take a week or so to ease into the marriage without having to focus on anything else.
To Be Intimate
Perhaps everyone’s no. 1 reason for going on an elaborate vacation after a wedding is to be intimate. Sure, you can achieve this just as easily at home, but there’s something about being far away in a beautiful setting that fosters intimacy. And in case you need a little boost, mead—the “honey” on honeymoon—is an aphrodisiac.
Make your first experience as a married couple a memorable one. Go out and explore a place together. You’ll now see the world through each other’s eyes. The challenges of travelling will force you to problem-solve together, bringing you closer as a result.
Some people diet before their wedding day; others lose their appetites because of stress. In any case, honeymoons are a perfect excuse to eat anything you fancy and as much of it as you’d like. If you’re travelling abroad, delve into the different flavours and take a few culinary tips home.
To Plan for the Future
Lastly, and perhaps most importantly, vacation gives couples a bit of quiet time to plan for the future. Most couples-to-be-wed spend a year or more planning for a single day, hardly even thinking about anything past that day. Not having goals after your nuptials, however, can lead to major post-wedding depression. Replace the goal of the wedding, itself, with another goal about you and your partner’s future and you both, will go home with something new to work towards.
Your honeymoon sets the tone for your new life
A honeymoon provides your first memorable moments as a couple. It sets the stage on how a couple treats each other and prepares the path to wedded bliss. Not to mention some great honeymoon memories that will help keep the spark alive while reminiscing.
A honeymoon is a wonderful way to create a yearly tradition
This tradition would be in the form of at least a week-long vacation every year to rekindle your romance and relive that special feeling when your marriage was in its beginning stages. What better way to do this than by trying out a different resort each year? Some resort brands even have several properties in all different parts of the world. For instance, the Sandals brand has seven resorts alone in Jamaica, 3 in St. Lucia, 2 in the Bahamas, 1 in Antigua, and their newest in Grenada. That’s 14 years worth of romantic resorts to visit, and enjoy!
Because you are worth it, and you both deserve it!
The best reason of all is because you worked darn hard slaving over the wedding planning – and there is no way that someone is going to steal your joy! So splurge for that butler; but be sure you know why you are splurging on a butler – or make sure you get the best possible experience by using a Honeymoon Travel Specialist who will plan every detail with the least amount of effort on your part, while also ensuring you receive all of the honeymoon perks and amenities you are entitled to!
Because a mini-moon may leave you feeling cheated
What is a mini-moon, anyway? A mini-moon is a way of saying, we either don’t have time or do not have the funds to have a real honeymoon, so we are going on a short little relaxing teaser trip instead. Mini-moons are exactly that, teasers. Remember when your parents told you that they didn’t have a real honeymoon? They skipped off somewhere to a local motel and spent a magical night or two. Or even better, they drove to a far-off beach somewhere and spent the night in their VW van. Then time passed by, and they realized 20 years later that they never got a chance to take a real honeymoon. It’s kind of sad.
Although it’s technically okay to take a mini-moon if you have to due to timing or funds, make sure that you plan to have a real honeymoon afterwards, and start planning them both at the same time. This will accomplish two things: One – it will get you excited about both trips, and ensure you get that much needed time to focus on each other, and two – you will be able to make longer payments towards the actual trip of your dreams.
A good rule of thumb is that a mini-moon should be about three nights. Your real honeymoon should be five nights or more depending on your destination and how long you can getaway. Ideally, it should involve you going somewhere that you both have never been. The idea is to create new memories while trusting each other to experience and venture into unfamiliar territories together.
Back to basics
Although the term “honeymoon” only goes back to the mid 16th century, most cultures over much of historical time have had something like it. Usually, there has been a period of time after the joining (marriage) of a couple, when the couple withdraws and spends time with only each other. Sociologists, psychologists and anthropologists have been fascinated by the tradition. What does it mean?
In cultures with arranged marriages, this is a time when the couple finally gets to know each other. In other cultures, it’s the time that the couple first becomes sexually intimate. In still others, it’s a private time to adjust to the married state without the pressures of daily responsibilities. Often, the days or month of couple alone-time is some combination of all three.
Since most American couples know each other very well, including sexually before they get married, the honeymoon has become more like a vacation. It’s generally seen as a time to relax after the wedding. But the expectation for it to be spectacular, or at least memorable, can undermine its real purpose.
Honeymoons are Important to Early Marriage Success
Wedding season is fast approaching, and that means plenty of couples are considering where they want to honeymoon. While work and other obligations may make it difficult to get away for a week or longer, making it tempting to simply have a long weekend after your wedding, the carefree time a couple spends together over their honeymoon is a critical component to the start of a marriage.
In today’s generation, many couples have already combined two households into one before the wedding bells, and often even before the engagement. While this is a great way to test the water for marriage, it can also cause stress early on in newlyweds. The mundaneness of everyday life can get in the way of the romance and excitement newly married couples should be experiencing. By taking that time away from your work and life obligations, a couple can reconnect in a relaxing and laid back atmosphere. Nothing allows you to enjoy time with your spouse like sitting on a beach, sipping a tropical drink in the sunshine.
With today’s blended families, this adds a whole new challenge to taking time away for a couple’s only honeymoon. However, if at all possible you should seek help from friends and family to make this happen. Your family will thank you later when you and your spouse return refreshed and even more in love than ever.
Many couples consider putting off the honeymoon until they have more time or more money. A newlywed couple’s honeymoon should be a time free of everyday stress where the couple can focus on each other and their relationship. This allows them to build a strong foundation for the early years of marriage.
So as you near the final steps of your wedding planning and eagerly await the big day, be sure also to put some time and thought into your honeymoon. Clear some time immediately following the wedding, choosing a relaxing location that you will both enjoy to focus solely on your spouse and your relationship. Your marriage will thank you for years to come.
A meaningful honeymoon requires time, not cash
A meaningful honeymoon doesn’t require thousands of dollars. I suspect that unless a couple has money to burn, spending the equivalent of a month’s rent or the down payment for a house puts pressure on the honeymoon to be about fun, fun, fun; an expectation that can lead to crushing disappointment.
Yes, a cruise or dream vacation to exotic places can be lovely, but it’s not necessary for marking and embracing what it means to be married and for setting the marriage on a positive and happy course. A few days with the phones and devices unplugged, sending out for food, and putting a “no visitors” sign on the door is really all that is needed.